The EIE leads with extraverted ethics (Fe) — emotionally expressive, atmosphere-shaping, oriented toward the shared feeling field. The EII leads with introverted ethics (Fi) — precise, interior, oriented toward an authentic internal map of values and genuine personal connection. Both types are ethical, both care deeply about people, and both take the relational dimension of life seriously. The difference is fundamental: Fe works outward and Fi works inward, and each is the other's weakest and least accessible function.
The Extinguishment relation
Extinguishment pairs share the same information element dimension — both are ethical types — but with opposite extraversion–introversion orientations on the leading function. The result is a specific mutual dampening: each type leads with precisely what the other handles least naturally.
For the EIE and EII, both types experience initial recognition — here is someone who takes ethics and human relationship seriously. But the EIE's expressive warmth and emotional charge does not land for the EII as warmth; it registers as outward performance that doesn't reach the interior depth the EII responds to. The EII's quiet, principled care does not land for the EIE as care; it registers as emotional withholding — present but not expressed in the visible, shared way the EIE needs.
Common friction points
The EIE can find the EII's interiority suffocating — genuine warmth held so far inward that the shared emotional space feels empty. The EII can find the EIE's expressiveness demanding — a continuous request for a mode of outward emotional engagement the EII finds costly and somewhat unnatural.
Neither type is indifferent to the other; both recognise the ethical seriousness they share. The Extinguishment dynamic is not hostility — it is a consistent mutual flatness in which neither type's primary mode produces the response they are oriented to receive. Moderate social distance tends to preserve mutual goodwill better than sustained close contact.
How this Extinguishment plays out
What makes this Extinguishment pair distinctive is doubled ethical leading from opposite directions. The EIE projects emotional content outward in expressive mission (Fe); the EII attends to ethical content inward in careful moral perception (Fi). Both lead with ethics, both treat moral matters with seriousness, both find purely operational contexts insufficient. The opening conversation has the unmistakable quality of two ethically-led people recognising each other — at last, someone who actually cares about how people are treated.
The trouble shows up as the partners articulate their ethics in detail. The EIE means "we together should feel this way about it"; the EII means "this individual deserves this treatment for these reasons". The Fe-Fi inversion runs through every function — the EIE's Ni is outward-public-mission, the EII's Ne is outward-developmental-possibility; their tertiary and weak functions invert equally. The recognisable conclusion is that the partners arrive at consistently different ethical decisions for what look like compatible reasons, and neither can quite locate where the divergence began.
Where this pair surfaces: certain pastoral and counselling partnerships in which one figure handles collective work and the other handles individual cases, family configurations producing children who feel that both parents are caring in incompatible ways, occasional friendships sustained on mutual ethical respect at clear distance. The pair functions in defined ethical roles with limited integration and is recognisably exhausting in continuous shared life — Extinguishment between two ethical leaders runs warm, intellectually compatible, and quietly destabilising.
For identification: see the Extinguishment relation overview for the full theory.